How to Keep Your Emotions Regulated in Relationships When You Have CPTSD

People with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) often experience mood and behavioral shifts depending on the trigger or how someone treats them. Anxiousness or frustration can result in emotional ups and downs so keeping a distance from individuals who create these energies is best.

Others often misunderstand the unease experienced by those suffering CPTSD. Anger is often the outward emotion that hurts their relationships with friends and spouses. This misunderstood reaction makes it challenging to sustain and reach the goals of a good relationship because, truth be told, CPTSD sufferers need to feel balanced and have certainty with those around them.

This article gives some ways to ensure emotional stability for CPTSD sufferers:

Calming Your Mind, Maintaining Your Emotional Stability

Developing our emotional regulating ability is an essential social skill and a wonderful way to feel the self-love we need. It’s extremely helpful when we know what regulates us, as well as, the types of individuals that keep us regulated. It’s super helpful when a family member, spouse, friend, child, or co-worker understands CPTSD and doesn’t antagonize the trauma within the sufferer. Building good relationships requires the ability to understand each other and help all parties regulate their emotions. Relationships should heal, not hurt.

The following strategies aim towards achieving mind regulation and emotional stability.

  • Avoidance Of Triggering Events, Gatherings, Individuals, and Behaviors

Since prolonged traumatic behaviors like that of a narcissistic abuser, repeated bullying, violent attacks, capture, mental games, extreme criticism, etc., are responsible for CPTSD, activities that promote, encourage, or are accepting of such behavior can cause potentials of triggering symptoms. In avoiding emotional instability, and those who enjoy it, a CPTSD victim can remain aligned and regulated without having suffer relapses. In this, friends and spouses have a significant role to play.

  • Adequate Sleep

Depriving the body of enough rest exposes the body to emotional instability, thereby increasing the vulnerability to mood and anxiety ups and downs.  Inducing calmness of the brain, by getting adequate rest through sleep, goes a long way in maintaining emotional stability. CPTSD sufferers will need more rest than most. Making accommodations for rest, and family members assisting with such, will result in more moments aligned than not.

  • Engaging in Hobbies

Drawing, music, reading, writing, etc. involves an individual’s cognitively, brings about relaxation, and induces proper excitement. These activities help to create a healthy-selfish distraction from the thoughts that often trigger the symptoms of CPTSD. Careers surrounding their hobby is often best for trauma survivors.

  • Meditation

Meditation, even in tiny amounts, throughout the day is magic for CPTSD survivors! It’s a way to maintain control over alignment throughout the body, mind, and soul which can create the certainty needed.  It allows for regulation of thought and focus, helps to quiet the mind, enhances awareness of oneself and the environment, and, most importantly, induces relaxation.

  • Socialization

Most times, connecting with people of similar interests goes a long way in keeping the mind regulated. When we find the right relationships we can trust, and trust is the number one characteristic a CPTSD sufferer needs.

  • Living A Healthy Life

Many people adopt self-medication, drinking, and the use of other drugs to suppress their anxiety symptoms. However, the temporary relief leaves the need for more and an addiction coupled with CPTSD is how our prison symptoms got out of hand.  An unhealthy lifestyle poses bigger problems and harm to existing relationships. Finding others who are into regulating their own health, and lifestyle choices, can assist trauma sensitive sufferers to live regulated and heal them surprising ways. Don’t be afraid to remove unhealthy family members or friends from your inner circle. Loving them can be done from a distance.

To Wrap It Up

People with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, show typical symptoms from feeling anxiety or fear they don’t want to.  Their unplanned behaviors can serve as a red flag to other people, and it tends to hurt or prevent them from obtaining their desired relationships. Symptoms of CPTSD are not often intentional, and can be suppressed. An individual being too loud, teasing, not really considering or respecting others can cause those with CPTSD to walk the other way and not develop a friendship. Because of the mental aspect of CPTSD symptoms, a sufferer usually does well with aligned and regulated individuals who have good character and show compassion or empathy towards others. Avoiding triggering factors, getting adequate sleep, engaging more in hobbies, meditating, and socializing with the right friends helps to keep CPTSD victims living a life of peace. This is a MUST, and those who understand and support that will not only have the best relationships with them but, will heal them on the deepest levels.